Failure is the only teacher you will always get an A from. Sounds ironic, huh? But think about it. If you allow yourself to embrace failure, you will learn something. You walk away a better person when you admit mistakes and take away the lesson that comes with them. Avoiding mistakes or blame shifting yields no positive results.
This is especially true for anyone who is struggling with addiction. The more you learn about yourself, why you use, what leads to you avoid things, and how it makes you feel afterwards, the greater your chances of accepting responsibility for your addiction, recovering from it, and staying sober.
One way to embrace the idea that you are not perfect, that you will make mistakes, and despite that, you are a great person, is to tell yourself everyday. There are a few words of wisdom that you can use to remind yourself of this.
3 Things to Say to Yourself Every Day: Drug and Alcohol Words of Wisdom:
#1- “I Never Lose; I Win or I Learn.”
This statement is plastered across the hats of many people in recovery because it rings true in so many ways. Most people spend the beginning of their recovery literally feeling like a loser, but the truth of the matter is, at some point, everyone has to lose. When you reframe your thinking to see making a bad choice or screwing up in some way is just an opportunity to learn what not to do in the future, you stop beating yourself up over mistakes. Everyone is bound to make a few mistakes. The real worry should start when you stop making mistakes. Life can get boring.
#2- “Small Efforts”
Robert Collier said it best when he said, “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.”
This rings true in so many ways when you are trying to maintain sobriety. AA says, “One day at a time.” It’s the same train of thought. Small efforts repeated over and over again bring great results. Find one thing and do it well over and over again. Start with not drinking or using today. Try it again tomorrow. Next, move to kindly speaking up when you are frustrated. Try it again tomorrow. Keep repeating these small efforts every single day, and you will strengthen your sobriety.
Focus on the small steps and sobriety will not be overwhelming. If you look at the big picture—a lifetime of sobriety—it can get scary and seem impossible. Focus on the small efforts you need to maintain sobriety, and it will just naturally come.
#3- “Sobriety is Selfish”
Selfishness doesn’t seem like something that will improve your life, but sobriety is selfish. It has to be. As someone in recovery, you have to be selfish in order to preserve your sobriety. You cannot allow yourself to try and please other people and risk relapsing.
What most families and friends of recovering alcoholics and addicts do not understand is that sobriety takes work. During the beginning stages of sobriety, you are fragile, so you cannot put yourself in a vulnerable situation. By doing so, you are risking too much. Susceptible situations will vary from person to person. You have to know your limits and be selfish about sticking to them. Otherwise, you are putting your happiness as well as the long-term happiness of your friends and family in jeopardy. When you question your selfish acts, think about how a relapse would hurt more people than just you. Use that thought as your strength to stay selfish.
Look at yourself in the mirror every morning and remind yourself of these three simple things:
- I never lose, I win or I learn.
- Small steps.
- Stay selfish.
Doing so will help you in more than just sobriety. It will help you develop stronger relationships, it will help you achieve bigger successes, and most importantly, it will help you find the happiness you deserve.